And A New Year Has Begun.....

So this is my first post of 2008. First off, I want to say how glad I am that 2007 is over. It was the crappiest year I have ever had for a lot of reasons, and I have some hope for 2008 to be a better year, for it can't get much worse, right?

First off, an update on A&B.... yesterday I spoke to B and she was once again complaining about what an "ass" he is. Apparently he is still acting really jealous, accusing her of being unfaithful and being really distant at home to her and the kids. He is "stressed" at work, etc and takes it out on them. She tells me that he never spends time with the kids, and never helps her with ANYTHING in the house. All he does is come home, eat dinner, occasionally he bathes their son, and then he locks himself in the extra bedroom to play World of Warcraft until all ungodly hours of the night. He's so into it that he has an internet telephone connection with a headset where he can talk to all the strangers he is playing with for all those hours. She expressed to me that it hurts her to know that he'd rather speak to all of those strangers rather than his own wife. They have been married almost 15 years, together almost 18 years and yet has very little trust in her. I don't blame her for being upset...I was upset to know that he is so harsh to a person that is as good as she is.

So imagine my surprise that a couple of hours after she confessed all this to me, that I hear from HIM out of the blue. Mind you it's been about 4 months since I had spoken to him - and I pretty much wrote him off as a nobody in my life. When he called me (at work of course so she would never know he called) he acted all cool and was like "What's up?" and I said... "Who's this? I don't KNOW this person..." I wanted to break his balls because I think he deserved it. He is nothing but an insecure guy with a fragile and large ego...I couldn't help myself. Anyway, he got pissy that I said that and proceeded to hang up on me. I was flabbergasted, but I would be DAMNED if I would react to it...b/c I know that is what he wanted. He ended up calling back within 2 minutes. I know already that he is having problems at home b/c she clued me in to the fact... so in a way, I am not surprised that he called me...he only reaches out to me when he is pissed off at her. I refuse to get involved in his nonsense. He was complaining about her- he said she is "mean as a rattlesnake" to which I responded..."I don't really believe that. Your wife is a good woman and she's a good person." He said,"You don't know how she really is." I said to him..."I am not going to believe any of the nonsense b/c I wouldn't want to have to defend you." (lol). He got a little miffed at that statement and said... "I need someone to defend me sometimes." and I said "Well, you never needed me before, so I guess you are S.O.L." Basically I think I got the message through to him that I was not going to bash her just to make him feel better. She's not perfect, no one is, but I firmly believe that he is the one who is MOST at fault for their problems. He is self involved, lazy and immature in a great many ways. I don't envy her for being stuck with him.... One other interesting note, when I said something about not hearing from him recently, he said, "Well, I keep up with you by talking to B. She always let me know what you and Hubby are up to and how you all are doing." I found that interesting. I guess in his own way, he can't let go of me. He wants to be able to find a new way to get his hooks into me again. I will NEVER allow that to happen EVER again. When I left off with him yesterday, I didn't say anything about keeping in touch, hope to hear from you soon, or good to hear from you. I purposely didn't say any of those things in order to give him a clue that he has no hold on me anymore. A year ago I may not have been able to withstand a conversation with him. I am a much stronger person now than then, my best friend Shell stated it best "You finally graduated." Yep I sure did...and I will continue to exorcise him from my life as often as I need to in order to find the peace that I need. Hip Hip Hooray!