Showing posts with label bad friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bad friends. Show all posts
Sunday, March 27, 2011
It's been a while!
Well, I guess I have been bad about updating this online blog- in my defense, there has been a lot of stuff going on, and I never seem to have a few minutes alone to update it. So here's the update of sorts: Bad Friend Update It's pretty much the same crap over and over again with Shell. I never ended up seeing her for her kid's bday, nor did she bother to plan a Sweet 16 for her (as far as I know, there could have been a huge party that I wasn't invited to.) Things continue to be strained between us, despite the many olive branches I extend and the many 2nd chances I give her. She finally admitted to me that she is still seeing that married guy she knew from high school, and has been seeing him for 2 years. He won't leave his wife because of the kids, and she is still married to the other winner that refuses to give her a divorce. It's an impossible situation that cannot be resolved without letting go of the boyfriend. She refuses to do that, so she must be ok with being 2nd fiddle in this guy's life. She never has been able to find a man that treats her with respect because she doesn't respect herself enough to know better than to stay involved with this guy. She calls him her "soul mate." She's clearly delusional- she can't see that he's getting the better end of the deal; he gets the wife and family, and the whore on the side that he gives expensive gifts to. She's little more than a prostitute, at his beck and call whenever he wants her. She jumps on a plane at a moment's notice to go see him (at least once a month) and yet she still cries poverty. Obviously he's paying her airfare and expenses. It's really sad. She knows that I don't approve of this relationship, and that I can see it for what it really is, but she doesn't want to hear it from me, so she avoids me. She also told me that she is planning to move to NY when her daughter graduates in 2 years. I'm sure she is hoping this guy will finally commit to her once she is in town full time. She's too blind to see that he won't keep her anymore once she becomes too accessible- he can't risk the wife finding out. My prediction is that he will break it off by the time she moves there. Time will tell if I am correct on that. Hubby's Health This past month has been really stressful. My dear hubby developed an enlarged heart- he had to have an angiogram (which showed no blockages, thank God) and is now on 8 different meds to control his condition. He was out of work for 3 weeks and just recently went back. Fortunately, it appears that this was caused by an errant virus that settled in his heart, causing the condition to occur. None of the tests could confirm that, however, but the Dr's have stated that they believe that is the case. After it's all said and done, he has an excellent prognosis and the Dr. expects a full recovery. Thank God! He has another cardiologist appt in about a week for a follow up exam. My Little Boy My boy turned 2 in February. He's a big boy 60th% weight and 90th% height- still a very picky eater. Most days he eats very little food, but loves drinking his milk. I go through almost 3 gallons a week! I changed him from whole milk to 2%, but he's still drinking up a storm. I tried 1% for a few days to see if he'd eat more, but he ended up drinking a gallon in 1 day!! So I have my work cut out for me...lol! Job Well, the job front has become more complicated. The owner decided to move the plant from FL to IN. All of the warehouse, production, and shipping personnel will be laid off in April or May. Supposedly my job will be ok, because they are keeping the corporate offices local. I am no dummy, I don't believe that for a minute. I think they will eventually close this office once they settle everything up north. I have my resume out and am open for opportunities. I want to be in control of my next opportunity, not be in a desperate position. I hope to God I find a job that I like as much as this one. Btw- Papparazzi left about a month ago- she found another job right away. I don't miss her, and wasn't at all sad to see her go. The drama level has gone down a few notches with her gone. Well, that's the update for now- I'll try to be better about getting on here more often. That's it and that's all....
Saturday, April 17, 2010
And The Rant Continues...
It recently occurred to me that I hadn't blogged in 2 months.... I have been so busy that I have had no time to get on here, as a result this entry will be a tossed salad of sorts...a little of updates on the baby, a little bit of job update and of course, a "bad friend" update. My blog would NOT be complete without a rant about my so called friends. I wonder if any of you are as sick of hearing about it as I am... I hate that I have to whine about it, but I have no other outlet for my feelings and if you have kept up with me this long then I would suppose you have an interest in what happened. So here goes:
Baby Update:
My baby boy is 14 1/2 months old. He started walking on 2/27/10 while we were at my sister's house in Orlando for my nephew's birthday. He just all of a sudden started walking... I was so excited that I applauded and he got scared and fell down... lol! Within a week he was walking all over the place and now almost 2 months later he is running and is really quick, I can barely keep up with him! Now you know why I have no time to get on here to blog... ;) He is 31.5 in tall and 24.2 lbs as of his last appointment with the GI Dr. We are finally weaning him off the Prevacid for the reflux that he had since he was an infant. He will probably have his last dose on Sunday or Monday and that should be it. God willing he will not need to go back on it again. We are taking him to see a Pediatric Cardiologist on Tuesday- the GI Dr noticed a strange heart rhythm on 2 different occasions when he checked him so he recommended it get checked out. It's likely some sort of heart murmur, that is something that is predominant on my Mom's side of the family...My Mom, brother and I all have murmurs. I have faith that this will only be a precautionary appointment and will be nothing serious. Keep praying for a good and positive result.
Baby boy was a great eater up until the past 2 weeks or so. He went from eating anything I gave him to being extremely fussy. He often refuses even things that are his favorites like fresh bananas and his cereal and fruit. About the only foods that I can guarantee he'll eat are Goldfish crackers, YoBaby yogurt and Gerber snacks (Puffs and Little Crunchers.) Oh, and cookies. The kid has a sweet tooth... it was inevitable...once he had his birthday cake and got a taste for sugar, that was it... I knew it then!
On to the next update- Job:
I still love the job. My boss has given over a few more responsibilities to manage. I am ordering display modules and working on a special project for one of the sales guys. We recently endured an office remodel and I now have brand new carpeting in my office. Thankfully, they didn't end up stripping down the wallpaper in my office. I think they ran out of time. I don't think that I could have dealt with the chemical smell and then the paint smell. Now that there is new carpet down, it's unlikely that they will do anything with the wallpaper. That's fine with me, I like the office just the way it is. I still have some idiots to deal with there...I need to do a separate blog post about the individual characters I work with. My boss and I have given a bunch of them nicknames so we can openly talk about them without anyone knowing what we are talking about. It's all very "Code Name, the Cleaner".. lol. I get a kick out of it.
And Finally- what you have been waiting for- The "Bad Friend" Update:
Where do I start? I guess I'll start with where I left off... I was left hanging as to what happened with Shell's daughter and the hospital. Well, apparently the "rash" she had was a symptom of an illness that is blood born- I can't recall the name of it right now, but basically, she developed this condition asa result of having Mono earlier in the school year. It attacked her white blood cell count and her # was so low that she was admitted to the hospital. She was in for 5 days, during which time no one- not even her parents- answered the telephone so that I could be clued in to what happened. Long story short, the girl is ok. I'm glad she is ok, but I still take exception to the fact that I wasn't told about the situation, I was left hanging. And the fact that one of her OTHER friends was told about it, and was with her at the hospital during this whole ordeal. My point was..even if she herself couldn't make the call, couldn't she have had her friend at least call a couple of people, especially since her phone was ringing off the hook? The whole thing seems too fishy. I hate to be cold, but I am really thinking that the whole ordeal was exaggerated so that she had an out for the party. And this is why... a couple of weeks ago, Hubby and I were down in her neck of the woods (she lives 45 min away) on an errand so I called her to see if she would meet up with us, or if we could stop by. I called on the way (both home and cell) and NO answer (of course!) I called again after we left the store we were at- NO answer. Finally I got pissed off and told hubby..."We are only 2 minutes from her house...let's drive by and see if her car is there." Sure enough, her NEW car (yes, the one with no money somehow got money to put down on a car- the married bf perhaps?) Seeing that she was home really made me mad...so I text messaged her "I like your new car- silver is a nice color." Wouldn't you know it? She called me RIGHT back! She KNEW she was found out! Then I got a song and dance about how her phone was upstairs and she never heard it ring, etc. And she HAPPENED to go up there and saw the text. I said...what about the house phone? I called a couple of times... her answer? "No one ever answers that phone." NICE. Seriously what is wrong with her? So anyway. she tells us to come over, and we arrive there. It's the first time I have had baby boy at her house. Her mom had never met him, so she was excited to see him, etc. While we were there, which was about an hour and a half or so- her cell phone kept beeping with tons of text messages from some guy that she said was a "friend from NY." SO her excuse that she never got my messages is just that- an excuse. She always has that phone on her, she just chooses not to respond to any of my calls or text messages (or facebook messages, instant messages or emails.) Another piece of proof that makes me belive that her daughter's ordeal was exaggerated: she had no birthday gift for the baby. If this entire thing was true, and she had really intended to come to the party, then shouldn't she have had his gift waiting for him for when she saw him? I gave her an opportunity to make good on her promise to "bring him his gift", but there was NO GIFT. That means that she never intended to come, or to give the gift. Again I must reiterate that it's not the gift itself that bothers me..it's the intent (or lack, thereof) that bothers me.
If I were her I'd be mortified that I'd been caught in the lie...but she just ignored the fact, as is her usual custom. Since that day she called me once- she clued me in that her best friend from NY (the one she has ALWAYS blown me off for) was coming to town for a week... I knew that I wouldn't hear from her...and it's been 2 weeks since then and I STILL haven't heard from her. I am really tired of all the lies and the nonsense. Be my friend or not..but don't pretend to be what you are not. Get me?
So as of right now, this situation is still unfolding, and I don't have a resolution yet. Maybe, someday I will. I have had many conversations with myself the past couple of weeks on this topic- and the conclusion that I have come to is that I need to make a break- a clean break. Much like when you break a bone, and it needs a cast on it to heal before you can use it again. I need to put a cast on this friendship and wait to see how well the bone heals before I can use it again. I will not call, text, email or instant message her, I will not facebook comment any of her posts or pay any attention to her at all. I deserve a friend that values me enough to share things going on in her life, and to be supportive when things are going on in mine. When things got tough for me, she ran. When things were tough for her- I was there. I am the better friend of the 2 of us, and it's completely her loss to not have me in her life. Her 40th birthday is coming up in June. I originally thought about organizing some sort of party or dinner for her to celebrate it- but now that will not happen. Let her other friends do it for her. Its not likely I'd be included anyway. And when her daughter has her Sweet 16 party this coming September, she can count me out. I'm not going ot participate in it. I don't rank high enough in her life to be involved in the day to day goings on, so she doesn't need a gift or any support from me. Period.
That's it and that's all!!
Baby Update:
My baby boy is 14 1/2 months old. He started walking on 2/27/10 while we were at my sister's house in Orlando for my nephew's birthday. He just all of a sudden started walking... I was so excited that I applauded and he got scared and fell down... lol! Within a week he was walking all over the place and now almost 2 months later he is running and is really quick, I can barely keep up with him! Now you know why I have no time to get on here to blog... ;) He is 31.5 in tall and 24.2 lbs as of his last appointment with the GI Dr. We are finally weaning him off the Prevacid for the reflux that he had since he was an infant. He will probably have his last dose on Sunday or Monday and that should be it. God willing he will not need to go back on it again. We are taking him to see a Pediatric Cardiologist on Tuesday- the GI Dr noticed a strange heart rhythm on 2 different occasions when he checked him so he recommended it get checked out. It's likely some sort of heart murmur, that is something that is predominant on my Mom's side of the family...My Mom, brother and I all have murmurs. I have faith that this will only be a precautionary appointment and will be nothing serious. Keep praying for a good and positive result.
Baby boy was a great eater up until the past 2 weeks or so. He went from eating anything I gave him to being extremely fussy. He often refuses even things that are his favorites like fresh bananas and his cereal and fruit. About the only foods that I can guarantee he'll eat are Goldfish crackers, YoBaby yogurt and Gerber snacks (Puffs and Little Crunchers.) Oh, and cookies. The kid has a sweet tooth... it was inevitable...once he had his birthday cake and got a taste for sugar, that was it... I knew it then!
On to the next update- Job:
I still love the job. My boss has given over a few more responsibilities to manage. I am ordering display modules and working on a special project for one of the sales guys. We recently endured an office remodel and I now have brand new carpeting in my office. Thankfully, they didn't end up stripping down the wallpaper in my office. I think they ran out of time. I don't think that I could have dealt with the chemical smell and then the paint smell. Now that there is new carpet down, it's unlikely that they will do anything with the wallpaper. That's fine with me, I like the office just the way it is. I still have some idiots to deal with there...I need to do a separate blog post about the individual characters I work with. My boss and I have given a bunch of them nicknames so we can openly talk about them without anyone knowing what we are talking about. It's all very "Code Name, the Cleaner".. lol. I get a kick out of it.
And Finally- what you have been waiting for- The "Bad Friend" Update:
Where do I start? I guess I'll start with where I left off... I was left hanging as to what happened with Shell's daughter and the hospital. Well, apparently the "rash" she had was a symptom of an illness that is blood born- I can't recall the name of it right now, but basically, she developed this condition asa result of having Mono earlier in the school year. It attacked her white blood cell count and her # was so low that she was admitted to the hospital. She was in for 5 days, during which time no one- not even her parents- answered the telephone so that I could be clued in to what happened. Long story short, the girl is ok. I'm glad she is ok, but I still take exception to the fact that I wasn't told about the situation, I was left hanging. And the fact that one of her OTHER friends was told about it, and was with her at the hospital during this whole ordeal. My point was..even if she herself couldn't make the call, couldn't she have had her friend at least call a couple of people, especially since her phone was ringing off the hook? The whole thing seems too fishy. I hate to be cold, but I am really thinking that the whole ordeal was exaggerated so that she had an out for the party. And this is why... a couple of weeks ago, Hubby and I were down in her neck of the woods (she lives 45 min away) on an errand so I called her to see if she would meet up with us, or if we could stop by. I called on the way (both home and cell) and NO answer (of course!) I called again after we left the store we were at- NO answer. Finally I got pissed off and told hubby..."We are only 2 minutes from her house...let's drive by and see if her car is there." Sure enough, her NEW car (yes, the one with no money somehow got money to put down on a car- the married bf perhaps?) Seeing that she was home really made me mad...so I text messaged her "I like your new car- silver is a nice color." Wouldn't you know it? She called me RIGHT back! She KNEW she was found out! Then I got a song and dance about how her phone was upstairs and she never heard it ring, etc. And she HAPPENED to go up there and saw the text. I said...what about the house phone? I called a couple of times... her answer? "No one ever answers that phone." NICE. Seriously what is wrong with her? So anyway. she tells us to come over, and we arrive there. It's the first time I have had baby boy at her house. Her mom had never met him, so she was excited to see him, etc. While we were there, which was about an hour and a half or so- her cell phone kept beeping with tons of text messages from some guy that she said was a "friend from NY." SO her excuse that she never got my messages is just that- an excuse. She always has that phone on her, she just chooses not to respond to any of my calls or text messages (or facebook messages, instant messages or emails.) Another piece of proof that makes me belive that her daughter's ordeal was exaggerated: she had no birthday gift for the baby. If this entire thing was true, and she had really intended to come to the party, then shouldn't she have had his gift waiting for him for when she saw him? I gave her an opportunity to make good on her promise to "bring him his gift", but there was NO GIFT. That means that she never intended to come, or to give the gift. Again I must reiterate that it's not the gift itself that bothers me..it's the intent (or lack, thereof) that bothers me.
If I were her I'd be mortified that I'd been caught in the lie...but she just ignored the fact, as is her usual custom. Since that day she called me once- she clued me in that her best friend from NY (the one she has ALWAYS blown me off for) was coming to town for a week... I knew that I wouldn't hear from her...and it's been 2 weeks since then and I STILL haven't heard from her. I am really tired of all the lies and the nonsense. Be my friend or not..but don't pretend to be what you are not. Get me?
So as of right now, this situation is still unfolding, and I don't have a resolution yet. Maybe, someday I will. I have had many conversations with myself the past couple of weeks on this topic- and the conclusion that I have come to is that I need to make a break- a clean break. Much like when you break a bone, and it needs a cast on it to heal before you can use it again. I need to put a cast on this friendship and wait to see how well the bone heals before I can use it again. I will not call, text, email or instant message her, I will not facebook comment any of her posts or pay any attention to her at all. I deserve a friend that values me enough to share things going on in her life, and to be supportive when things are going on in mine. When things got tough for me, she ran. When things were tough for her- I was there. I am the better friend of the 2 of us, and it's completely her loss to not have me in her life. Her 40th birthday is coming up in June. I originally thought about organizing some sort of party or dinner for her to celebrate it- but now that will not happen. Let her other friends do it for her. Its not likely I'd be included anyway. And when her daughter has her Sweet 16 party this coming September, she can count me out. I'm not going ot participate in it. I don't rank high enough in her life to be involved in the day to day goings on, so she doesn't need a gift or any support from me. Period.
That's it and that's all!!
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